Be Who You Want To Be

“Be All You Can Be”

-U.S. Army recruiting slogan (1980-2001)

If you’re reading this blog, chances are you’re either a child of mine or you’re someone old enough to remember the above slogan.  It was the recruiting slogan used by the U.S. Army from 1980 to 2001.

I was never in the Army, but I have watched a lot of TV over the years.  So maybe that old commercial was the inspiration behind the question I always ask my kids when they do or say something that gets them into some kind of trouble.

“Is That The Person You Want To Be?”

– Derek Rempfer parenting slogan (1994-The Day I Die)

I’m always encouraging my kids to look at every decision they make through the eyes of the person they want to be.  And I try to do the same myself.

What kind of person do I want to be?

What kind of father, husband, son, and brother?

What kind of Christian, friend, and co-worker?

What do I want to accomplish?

How to I want the world to view me?

What do I want people to say about me when I leave the room?  What about when I leave this life?

I think the answer to all these questions is the same…and it’s rather obvious:

Charles Ingalls

Hell, I've already got the hair for it!

I want to be this guy!

The other night my daughter Chloe turned the tables on me.  I was being a little cranky when I saw her making herself a late dinner shortly after I had cleaned the kitchen and put all the leftovers away.  She reacted to my grumpiness with a cheerful,


I laughed and asked her, “No?  Well, who am I then?”

And she said, “You’re a happy person who likes making other people happy.”

Tell you what…that daughter of mine is pretty wise.  I don’t know if that’s exactly who I am right now, but it’s definitely who I want to be.

I hope that the Derek Rempfer I want to be is coming through in these blog entries.  All I ever want to be is “better.”  Better this year than last.  Better this day than last.  Better this moment than last.

I am a work in progress, but I’m doing my best.  And like that great American Army general said…

“If a man does his best, what else is there?”

-Gen. George S. Patton

General George S. Patton

General George S. Patton

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Last Minute Gift Idea – Tell Them What They Want To Hear

For the little girl who grew up without a dad around to make her feel safe and protected.  And for the woman who used to be that little girl.

“I’ve got you.” (wrap it in a tight hug)

For anyone who hasn’t heard it from a parent in a while.

“I’m proud of you.”

For anyone who hasn’t heard it from a child in a while.

“I know you did your best. Thank you.”

For anyone who has lost someone they love.

“I just want you to know that I still remember and think about ____” (share a memory)

For anyone who feels like they can’t.

“You CAN. I believe in you.”

For anyone who feels like they aren’t.

“You ARE. I see it in you.”

For anyone who asks you if they look fat in these pants.

“No. No, you do not look fat in those pants.”

For anyone you’ve hurt.

“I am sorry. Please forgive me.”

For anyone who has hurt you and has asked for your forgiveness.

“I forgive you.”

For anyone who has hurt you and HAS NOT asked for your forgiveness.

“I forgive you.”

For anyone who has written a blog entry that touched you.

“Your blog entry touched me and I’m sharing it with a friend. Also, you are very handsome.”

For anyone reading this blog post.

“Thank you for reading this blog post.  Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!  Also, you are very handsome.”

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